Got Fear of Being Judged?
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Welcome to Mindset for Visibility! This is the week of St. Patrick's Day, and it's a big deal in my family. My mother was born on St Patrick's Day. Her nickname is Pat, and I have a shamrock that was a little teeny shamrock from her birthday several years ago.
I want to ask you
Do you have the fear of being judged?
I've shared with you before that I think that there are three main fears we have as entrepreneurs. We're afraid that in sharing our work we risk being judged, being pushy, and being rejected.
In my world, being judged is the one I fear the most.
I really do have the fear of being judged. I want to talk to you about how to move through that because I continuously have to move through it.
My worst fears are
that you will think I'm stupid,
that what I have to offer isn't valuable,
I'm not making a whole lot of sense when I talk about what I do,
that I'm charging too much,
that I'm being aggressive pushy, and salesy.
Does any of this sound familiar? These are all fears that are working in my brain, and I have to address them.
The way that I go about it is to say to myself, “Wait a minute.
“Whose business is this?
“Whose life is this?
“Am I going to cave into my fears or am I going to move forward with my mission and passion?”
I have shared before and I'll share again that I’ve made boatloads of mistakes.
Did I survive them? Well, yes I did.
Did I learn from them? You bet I did!
Will I make more mistakes? I can be sure of it and so can you.
So, the antidote to being afraid of being judged is TO GO FOR IT.
The antidote is to realize that you have the resources to recover from any challenge and that you're testing it out.
I know for a lot of women,
we want to get it right,
we want it to be perfect,
we want to have the right answer,
we want to be poised and graceful.
Sometimes life just isn't like that. Sometimes life is messy. We make mistakes.We hurt people's feelings and our feelings get hurt.
Yet, we can work through all of that.
The most important thing I think about when I think about this is the issue of the fear of being judged is to say to myself,
“This is my ride. This is my life. This is my business.”
My fears don't get to stand in the way of that. If I go for it, if I do my best to come from service, and share in my marketing and sales, if I really try to look for the right fit when I'm talking to someone about whether they want to work with me or not, then I have nothing to be afraid of.
I'm not forcing anybody into something.
I'm not shaming them. I have plenty of room to move, to make mistakes, and to risk judgment.
Another thing about judgment is this.
It's usually not about you. It's usually about the other person's perspective. A lot of times it's not even them that's judging you, it’s you that is judging you.
So can you give yourself some grace and some space and stop judging yourself so harshly? You're probably doing much better than you think you are.
Even if you're making mistakes, you're learning and growing. This is your ride.
Nobody else gets to say how you live your life or run your business. I would like for you to think about that this week, and notice where you might be judging yourself, or where you might be afraid of other people's judgments.
If that's something that you would like to talk about, please give me a shout or just come over to my website, https://www.adelemichal.com/ and click on the free consultation and schedule a time that we can talk.
There will be a short questionnaire there because I would like to know how best to help you.
I would love to have the opportunity to talk to you and see whether what I do can be of help.
If not, see if I have some other resources to share with you. Thanks for joining me and I will talk to you next time and may the luck of the Irish be with you!