Does Fear of Rejection Stop You?
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Today we're going to talk about whether the fear of rejection stops you.
I work with women coaches, consultants, and service providers. Basically women who earn their own money through their own efforts not working for someone else.
Usually they're very passionate about what they're doing, which can make it even more difficult to share their work.
If we're not sharing, if we're not letting people know what we do, then our business cannot thrive. Another word for this is marketing. If we're not marketing then people don't know that we can help them. We become invisible.
I've shared this with you before but this is the fear triangle that I've come up with about why we hide, in our business.
We fear being judged, we fear being pushy, and we fear being rejected.
Today we're going to talk about the fear of being rejected.
So, you're willing to go for it. You really want your business to be a success. You really want to serve your ideal clients. You can almost imagine what that would feel like.
But there's something in the back of your head saying, “yeah but if you really went for it somebody might be unhappy with you.
“Somebody might not want you to change.
“Somebody might not want you to be more successful.
“Somebody might not think it's a great idea that you're really enjoying your business.”
Now, you may not have a judgy person in your life, but you may project fear of rejection onto the collective like everybody on Facebook, LinkedIn, or Twitter.
We know that there are plenty of haters and judgers in our world.
The fear of rejection can be personal or it can seem more generalized to you.
Every time I change, every time I want to enhance my business and market more effectively so I can serve more people this fear of rejection comes up. I automatically ask myself, “Who's going to be unhappy with me when I change?”
I have to give myself a little pep talk, which I'll give you right now.
Fear is the normal companion to change any and every time. You’ve likely had a lot of change in this past year, and there’s more to come.
See if you can relate to your fear as the signal that you actually are moving forward.
You will be able to deal with whatever consequence, whatever rejections come from the change that you are making.
That’s the first antidote to the fear of rejection. The second is this:
Do not reject yourself first.
Do not reject your future, your possibilities, and your ability to unfold and express the magnificence that you already are.
It would be really wonderful if you have a look around at your attitudes and beliefs. See if you are afraid of being rejected by someone who's meaningful to you, or being rejected by people you don't even know on social media.
You can see if that's worth holding on to, and what’s not. Maybe it's not worth holding on to that fear, maybe it's more valuable to look at what else you can create in your business and life.
Hold these thoughts, “I'm a capable person. I've changed a lot in the past, I'm going to keep continuing to change.I bet I can handle this.” Because it’s true!