A Ladder of Believability For Money

I don't think I'm alone in feeling a lot of negative feelings about money - shame, guilt, shyness, and avoidance.

As women in this culture, we are trained to give and serve, be attractive, and not ask for much.

This is a horrible set up for dealing with money.

Back in the day, I moved to New York City and got a gig working as a freelance associate producer for an AT&T Public Relations video production. I had worked with Walter Cronkite's Universe at CBS News and had great skills in video production coordination.

What I didn't have was negotiating skills.

When AT&T's VP of PR asked what my hourly rate was, I was flummoxed.

I froze.

I struggled to ask for $25 an hour. (This was a while ago and that seems like a lot of money to me.)

But this was NYC where it seemed that daily $20 bills disappeared like magic - and didn't reappear.

A friend in banking who was making $300,000 a year was struggling to make ends meet. And $25/hour wasn't going to add up to anywhere near even $100,000 a year.

So the producer (my direct boss) said, "No way are you making just $25 an hour. I'm going to tell the VP that you're making $50 an hour."

She did, and I wound making a living wage in NYC for several years, happily making videos for AT&T and its subsidiaries.

Today I help other women in business ask for and get what they deserve and desire - especially with money and abundance.

I am much more comfortable with money now, actually enjoy negotiations, and like talking about money. I continue to work on feeling worthy and deserving because, like everyone else, I have hidden limitations that need to been revealed and healed.

One way I have managed my own healing around money is by creating and climbing a Ladder of Believability. I'll share mine so that you can borrow or tweak it for your own use.

Where I didn't want to be - I am afraid of money.

Where I did want to be - I am comfortable with money and enjoy plenty of it.

Here are the Steps on the Ladder that I use to get where I am today:

I am afraid of money.

I can look at the shame I have about money.

I can heal the shame I have about money.

I can heal the sense of unworthiness I have about money.

I can see and feel myself as worthy in all ways.

Money can become my friend.

Money is a method of exchange - it is not a real thing. So it is malleable and responsive to my intentions.

Other people have money - some have lots of it. I can learn to like, take care of, and attract more money.

As I get clear on my worthiness, I realize I deserve all the good that life has to offer - including money, opportunities, and success.

When I have more good in my life, I have more to share.

When I have more money in my life, I am not taking from someone else. There is more than enough for all of us because the amount of money in world expands.

I am comfortable with money and enjoy plenty of it.

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These are the steps on the Ladder of Believability that I have walked, getting familiar and comfortable with each step before moving on to the next one.

Of course, I will continue to work to improve my relationship and experience with money and worthiness.

Will you make your own Ladder of Believability about money and begin to climb it?

Everything is more changeable than you think it is. When you change your story about yourself and money, things shift in surprising and wonderful ways.

Please let me know how you go as you climb your own Ladder of Believability about money. I'd love to know!