Where Are Your Abundance Limits?
Let’s dive deeper into our conversation about expanding your abundance limits.
Last time I asked the two really important questions, from Gay Hendricks’s book The Big Leap:
“How much love and abundance am I willing to allow?”
And “How am I getting in my own way?”
Easy Questions to Ask, Hard to Answer
These are easy questions to ask – and hard questions to answer, because our Conscious Mind thinks we know the answer:
“Oh, it’s because I’m only allowed this much abundance, because that’s the way I was raised.”
Or “You know, I came from a tough childhood, so I only get this much. I don’t get this much. I have to be somebody else to get this much.”
And the problem with these answers is that they are not necessarily true.
The real answers are in the Subconscious Mind.
To illustrate this point, picture an iceberg with a bit of ice sticking up above the water.
This is the Conscious Mind - the top of the iceberg.
The Subconscious Mind is submerged under the water. There’s a whole lot more iceberg under the water than on top of it.
The Conscious Mind does not have much access to information about what’s going on in the Subconscious Mind– unless you’re in a more relaxed state of mind, which you can get through meditated and guided imagery or yoga. Any mindfulness practice will get you there.
But it’s not usually what we’re doing. Usually, we’re in the Conscious Mind, thinking about everything, strategizing, trying to figure and work things out.
We do not realize that in the Subconscious Mind an infinite number of dynamics continuously process on the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual levels. These dynamics affect everything you do – how you feel, how you relate, how you work, and how effective you are at just about everything you attempt.
Going into the Subconscious Mind and understanding what is going on there will actually get you what you want a whole lot quicker and with less effort than willpower and muscling through challenges.
Those great New Year’s Resolutions that you made up in your Conscious Mind have to be in alignment with what’s going on in your Subconscious Mind for you to actually make them stick so that being healthier, happier, and wealthier become a reality.
Some Facts about the Conscious Mind
- It sets goals.
- It judges.
- It knows the past and the future.
- It holds your short-term memory.
- At one time it can retain roughly 1-3 events.
- It processes 40 bits of information per second - 40. Please remember that number.
- It communicates in language and mathematics.
That’s your Conscious Mind. Powerful, focused, but often clueless as to what is going on in your Subconscious Mind.
Some Facts about the Subconscious Mind
It speaks in images and sensations.
It monitors all your body operations – all those billions of processes that go on every day in your body that keep you alive: your breathing, your heartrate, moisturizing your eyeballs, everything.
It thinks very literally - like a two-year-old. If you say, “Don’t notice that pink pony in the corner,” of course, it’s going to think about the pink pony in the corner. So it doesn’t understand “not” or “un-” or “no.”
It’s in present time only. Everything is happening now. Everything. That’s why, when you might get upset by emotions from a past event – it’s like it’s happening now, in your Subconscious Mind.
It has long-term memory – and in fact, it remembers everything - everything – even if your Conscious Mind has forgotten, it remembers everything. It holds thousands of events in memory.
It processes 40 million bits of information per second. Remember, the Conscious Mind processes at 40 bits per second? The Subconscious Mind processes 40 with six zeroes after it - 40 million.
The Subconscious Mind is a very powerful parallel processor.
It’s retaining all that information. It’s making up stories about events and experiences.
It retains images and experiences– and brings them back up if the situation calls for it. For instance it may send fear signals saying, “Ooh, maybe you don’t want to walk down that dark alley, because the last time you did it, you didn’t have much fun.”
The Subconscious Mind protects us in so many ways.
It also makes up stories and maintains our memories.
And it holds our blind spots to our limits on our abundance.
Where Your Limits to Abundance Live
That’s right, your blind spots to the limits on your abundance reside in your Subconscious Mind. And remember that the Conscious Mind doesn’t have much access to this information?
You have to be in a more relaxed state of mind to access what’s going on in the Subconscious Mind and usually we’re not all that relaxed in our day-to-day activities. We have to practice getting still and settled to listen in on the Subconscious Mind.
Those two questions I asked before are hard to answer, because of our blind spots to our abundance limits. You can’t see what you can’t see.
Example of Blind Spots
Your life experience can create blind spots.
A friend is biracial and never had known a black female professor. Because of her experience growing up, she was going to go to college to be a kindergarten teacher. Now we all know that kindergarten teachers rock.
And there was something more for her. She met a professor – another biracial woman – who told her, “Well, you could get a PhD and be a professor.” And that’s exactly what she did.
That was her blind spot – because she had seen what her mom had done - be a teacher – that’s what she expected for herself. She became a teacher, but at a prestigious university. Until she brought that possibility out of her blind spot so that she could see it, she didn’t know that she could even go for teaching at a prestigious university.
Abundance Limits
How you were raised and what you experienced will give you your abundance limits.
If you were raised in poverty, maybe you feel like your abundance can only be small.
If you were raised in wealth, maybe you think your abundance can be big.
If you didn’t have any control over your money – even though you were wealthy – maybe you keep your abundance moderate.
There’re no blanket answers.
It’s what you’ve experienced and what you make your life experience mean that will give you blind spots to the limits to your abundance.
Ask for Insights on Your Abundance Limits
If we were to go into the Subconscious Mind, which is actually very easy, we’d find the answers to where your blind spots to your abundance limits are.
What you have to do is get still and settled.
Let’s do that together now. Let’s just take three deep breaths and get still and settled.
Now, feel yourself on the chair.
Let yourself get a little heavier.
We’re going to ask that your Subconscious Mind create a meter with 10 at the top and 0 at the bottom.
This is your Abundance Limit Meter.
I’m going to ask the question, “How much love and abundance are you willing to allow?”
And when I count to 3, the meter is going to register at a certain number and you’ll know what that number is. So you know how much further you get to go in your abundance expansion.
On the count of 3, you’ll know. 1, 2, 3.
Let that number register, and take a note if you’d like.
That’s your Subconscious Mind speaking to your Conscious Mind. It takes getting relaxed, still, and settled – and allowing this very powerful part of yourself to give a picture, send a feeling, offer a sensation to your Conscious Mind. That way you are more aware of what’s going on in your Subconscious Mind.
Now, we’re going to ask the second question: “How am I getting in my own way?”
An insight will come to you when I count to 3. It may be a word; it may be a person; it may be a sensation.
I don’t know what it will be for you. And if you feel like you’re making this up, that’s the right feeling. On the count of 3, you’ll know how you’re getting in your own way. 1, 2, 3.
Let that settle in. Take a note on that insight, if you would like. This is the beginning.
This is the way for you to get the answers to what you need to know, what you need to do, and who you need to be to expand your abundance limits.
So I’m going to leave you there, and ask that you email me and give me some feedback about what you discovered.
Notice how these insights play out over the coming week.
I’ll be back next week to deepen our conversation about expanding our abundance limits.